Christian the lion (center) with friends Ace Bourke & John Rendell
In all seriousness, I think I just became a vegetarian. This video is likely the most moving thing I have ever seen on the internet. When I lived in Australia, I had a dog called Jara. I have never, ever loved another thing as much, and doubt I ever will, but when I moved back to New York, I couldn’t bring her with me for a number of reasons. Although I moved back here almost ten years ago, I still dream about her all the time, but lately my Jara dreams have been sad: she doesn’t remember me when I see her. This video gave me hope that she will remember me, and maybe even forgive me for leaving her behind. I know she has a better life over there than she could possibly have here - she’s a runner (half Red Heeler, a breed of dog used to herd cattle), and would be miserable in an apartment. She lives with a friend’s dad, who has other dogs,in a house with a yard that adjoins a large park. Still, my heart breaks a little every day when I wake up and she’s not poking her little head out from under the covers.
Also, for what it’s worth, I went to great lengths to find a version of this video that did not feature Aerosmith or Whitney Houston (the song in this version is Sigur Ros).
This is pretty much Blatant Plagiarism. I love, love, love haiku d’etat, Erica’s site. We used to have these amazing (amazingly entertaining, not amazingly brilliant) haiku email threads back when we worked together. Erica now blogs in 5-7-5, and sometimes, waiting for her pithy wit is all too much, and I sit here, willing her to GET THAT SOCIALLY RELEVANT HAIKU OUT ALREADY, WOMAN!
Anywho, I have sleeping problems, but they’ve been taken to a whole ‘nother level lately. So I pretty much spend an hour watching Golden Girls reruns every night. Don’t judge - I never claimed to be highbrow. My heart broke a little when I read that Estelle Getty, aka Sicilian Spitfire Sophia Petrillo, had given us her final “…but I digress”. So my sorrow was somewhat mitigated when I saw that Erica had felt my pain across the 5 states that separate us, and intervened with:
We had so many
Golden nights, Estelle. Thank you
For being a friend.
Knowing when to leave well enough alone has never been my particular strength (see also: pithy). So I tried to be clever, too, and I left Erica some memorial haikus, and when she sent me an email that she actually liked them, I was thrilled. I will also share with you my feeble attempts at 5-7-5, but I know when I’m beat!
Purse of wicker and
seashells. Sicilian hexes.
Thank God for re-runs.
Pussycat, let us
pray that heaven is nothing
like Shady Pines was
It’s kind of a moot point, anyway, because I think Erica is the only one who reads this…at the very least, she’s the only one who comments!
For any other Petrillophiles out there, this article will warm the cockles of your hearts:
I got a link today to what may be the greatest avoidance enabler ever. First, I, for the most part, hate the phone. I love having a phone, but I get a little irritated at the large amount of idle chit-chat that it promotes. My life is currently pretty boring, and I just don’t have a lot going on to talk about. The other part of the problem is that I have a few friends who seem to call for the express purpose of delivering a monologue, yet have no real desire for any input or feedback, let alone have an actual conversation. Whenever I start to speak, they have an innate gift for turning this “conversation” right back to themselves. It’s an exercise in constant one-upmanship, and I am totally disinterested in these kinds of relationships. They would be having the exact same interaction with a garden gnome or that gorilla who learned how to paint and use sign language (Coco?).
So Slydial made my black heart flutter. I don’t want to be the Avoiding Asshole. But I am not a therapist, and there’s no point in trying to help people who don’t want to be helped, anyway. So, as passive-aggressive as this may be, Slydia is brilliant. In their own words:
Dial 267-SLYDIAL (267-759-3425) from any landline or mobile phone.
At the voice prompt, enter the U.S. mobile phone number of the person you want to slydial.
You will be directly connected to their voicemail. Leave them a voicemail, sit back and relax.
Slydial is absolutely free! And you don’t have to sign up in order to use it.
If you’re as anti-social and intrigued by this as I am, check out www.slydial.com
I haven’t used it yet, but I am sure I will. Unless, of course, I have your mobile number, and you get a message from me even though your phone didn’t ring…in that case, I have no idea what happened. Bizarre!
Baby, I can drive your car. I took (and passed!) my road test on Thursday! OK, so I was the oldest person there by far; in fact, the possibility that I could have given birth to a number of people in line with me exists. I am undeniaby a late bloomer, and I am finally OK with that. Better to do things well later, than to do a shitty job on somebody else’s arbitrary schedule, right? Anywho, in honor of my shiny, new license, here are the top 12 songs (I couldn’t pick just 10, so I’m honoring my own aforementioned tradition of bucking society’s trends) about driving that I can think of at the moment:
12. I Drove All Night; Roy Orbison
11. Drive; REM
10. Bigger, Stronger, Faster; Coldplay
9. Taillights Fade; Buffalo Tom
8. Daddy’s Gonna Pay For Your Crashed Car; U2
7. Drive My Car; The Beatles
6. On the Road Again; Willie Nelson
5. Fast Cars; U2
4. Mercedes Benz; Janis Joplin
3. Road To Nowhere; Talking Heads
2. Roadhouse Blues, The Doors
1. Highway To Hell; AC/DC (or Acca Dacca, for the Aussies out there!)
I love postsecret.com. Postsecret is a project started by a guy named Frank Warren; the idea is that people mail him anonymous postcards with their own secrets written on them, which he then posts online. Something about reading those secrets feels a little naughty, I guess it’s kind of like reading someone’s diary, but the overriding feeling I get from scrolling through those strangers’ cathartic, mini works of art is comfort. I’ve never gone through those secrets without finding something that makes me wonder if people can hear what I’m thinking. After that wave of paranoia passes, it reminds me that as alone and odd-man-out as I feel at times, there are people out there who are just like me, and maybe I’m not so abnormal after all. For a more eloquent explanation, as well as the history behind the idea, check out http://www.postsecretcommunity.com/news-faq/postsecret-story
The posts so far have been whingey and annoying. I know, and I’m sorry. So, on a lighter note, a few happy things I want to extoll the virtues of:
1. The Frogurt at Bloomingdales: Yes, it’s expensive, and the line is always annoying at the 59th St store. But it is sublime. As a man I gifted with a cup described it, it is “Manna from the Gods in Heaven”. It really is that delicious. A few other places in the city have it - Cafe Lalo on W. 83rd, and Zabar’s allegedly has it, although I haven’t tried it there yet.
2. Cheap Mascara: I have had pricey mascara that I’ve loved - first Vincent Longo, then Shu Uemura, Lorac, Fresh, Chanel. And I’ve tried inexpensive mascara that I’ve hated - Great Lash, Voluminous, and some unmemorable others. Well, I have seen the light, and it is cheap! I am using Rimmel Eye Magnifier Eye Opening Mascara. It doesn’t flake, it doesn’t smudge, and I think it’s as good as the Chanel. Bonus: at $4.99 a tube from Target, you can have 6 tubes instead of the 1 Chanel that becomes rancid after you refuse to ditch it in a timely manner because it cost $30. Um, so I’ve heard.
3. The Kooks: I saw them live two weeks ago, and it was flipping brilliant. They were amazing. My friend thought they were like the early Stones, but young Luke Pritchard, with his earnest vocals, and slightly awkward practice rock-God postures, was pure Bono circa 1978 to me. New album is Konk, and it’s awesome.
3a. The Kooks’ opening act, The Morning Benders: So fun, so cute, so excited to be opening for The Kooks in New York. Album is called Talking Through Tin Cans, and it’s awesome, too.
4. College: Yes, I waited a long time. Yes, I am the oldest freshman out of anyone I’ve met there so far. But it is rewarding in a way that a dead-end job will never be (trust me on this one). My grades were better than any performance review I ever received from an idiotic HR manager who doesn’t know the difference between “Jean’s Friday” and “Jeans Friday”, and I made the Dean’s List, so SUCK IT, LADY. I am embarrassingly excited about it, and I don’t care who knows.
Which isn’t a bad thing. The bad thing is the flight, the endless trip with nothing to do but think about blood clots and horrible crashes. Irrational, yes. I never claimed to be the President of Rational. Melbourne is Annabelle. Annabelle is the big sister that I don’t have. And Annabelle is stressed. There’s not great stuff happening for her right now. But Annabelle isn’t the only one who’s floundering. What am I doing? I am single, which I pretend isn’t a big deal, but it is. The pretending isn’t about saving face, though - it’s about trying to convince myself that I don’t care. That being alone and independent is ok, and it doesn’t imply being lonely. Except when it does, which is most of the time. I don’t have a job, which is fine, except when I want a piece of fresh fruit, or ignore the tuition bills that school sends me, or have to cross my fingers when I turn on the tv and wait to see if the cable company has granted me one more day of reprieve in the form of mind-numbing entertainment, or realize that all my clothes look like things that Alice bought before her fateful trip down the rabbit hole. My remarried parents (not to each other) have their own lives, my younger brother forgets I have a pulse, and my wee sister is a full generation younger than me and is busy playing soccer and getting ready for sleep-away camp and middle school. I don’t have a pet. My friends are all away, or in relationships, or busy with their blossoming careers, and the truth is that in those respects, I am expendable to them. I don’t mean that in a petty way, it’s more of the way (warning: sexist generalization ahead) men analyze and quantify things: What’s the return on this investment? But, and I do mean this in a petty way, why do I have to choose? Why does it have to be Annabelle or family? Why do I make everything so ‘all-or-nothing’?
Melbourne isn’t exactly starting over, though, in the way that moving to LA or Dublin or London would be. It’s some kind of safe. It’s Jara. It’s a sort of homecoming.
Why would someone planning a “vacation” start to worry about this crap? Melbourne is never truly a vacation. It’s always a toe-dip in the pool of what could be, and what once was.
Once upon a time, I met Erica at our desk jobs, a place we were both excited to be. But then one day, maybe like a week later, we both realized that the place we worked, in fact, sucked. It sucked more than a Dyson; and we’re not talking a handheld Dyson, or even the household version, here. We’re talking the industrial kind. The kind that is strapped to a generator and used to clean the streets after a ticker-tape parade. So for a while, we gave each other knowing looks across the bay (the cluster of desks, not the water), but that palpable suck went unmentioned. We wiled the time away, trying to pretend the suck wasn’t there by planning company-sponsored parties, making life-sized gingerbread houses out of cardboard, and crafting hideous witches using Laura Bush masks. What I am trying to say is: at the very least, we tried. We tried hard. But it wasn’t enough. Like most tornadoes, the suck was unavoidable and inescapable, no matter how hard we closed our eyes and plugged our ears while humming. Erica was the smarter of the two, and also possessed a fancy degree from a fancy place, ergo, she had Magical Options. This heroine, on the other hand, did not have such a fancy thing, so while Erica mustered up the courage to break free, I was stuck, sucked further and further into the sinkhole, which became less bearable as Erica rode off into the sunset. I pressed my face against the windows of my cubicle and watched her become a dot on the horizon as my cubicle twirled further and further, faster and more violently with each twist, up the tornado, with only play-doh, gofugyourself.com, and a small, faded sticker labeled “Erca Shrn” left to trade knowing glances with (un-satisfyingly one-sided glances, as I am sure you can imagine). As I saw her wave from the ground, though, I knew that there was a way out, and that made all the difference.
